Breakups are painful and often avoided even when it’s a sick or abusive relationship!
We can’t escape the pain of leaving, of disconnecting from our hopes and dreams, of giving up and letting go. Even if it will be healthier to let go, it’s still so painful and sad and empty feeling. Even if ultimately you will be relieved and even wonder why you stayed so long, it will be painful for sometime before you get to that internal better space.
So do the hard work of leaving when it’s safer and healthier for you. Do the hard work of trying to work things through if you are safe and the relationship has been mostly healthy and mutually beneficial. But don’t stay just because breaking up will hurt. Because breaking up hurts! It’s a type of death. Sad to say.
Take care
Dr Carol Francis
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