I don’t always agree with lists provided about what abusers or manipulators say because we all use such phrases sometimes, normally. However, when an abuser or manipulator uses phrases that freeze us, discourage us, control us, or confine us, we need to pay attention. Those phrases are what triggers our “vulnerably victimizable mindsets.” Know your triggers! And consider this article: “10 phrases narcissists use to maintain the upper hand in relationships – Hack Spirit”


While people around you have NOT displayed integrity nor any allegiance to caring about the impact of their foul behaviors, you have a choice to manage your own character qualities. Do you consider integrity to be valuable to you or to other worthy people? What does integrity even look like when it interfaces with the treachery of cruelty and deception? Is safety valued larger than integrity? Considered this article as you contemplate. “People with integrity often display these 10 character traits” – Hack Spirit


“Who am I?” You have many dimensions to who you are and thus many expressions of your personality. So as you recover, know that only a part of you will periodically erupt that reacts to your trauma and the triggers in your present. You are more, much more than your traumas. Don’t forget ALL of who you are as your evolve and heal. Check this article out “Personality Can Change from One Hour to the Next”- Scientific American