When you don’t disclose your experiences of abuse or trauma in your every day environment at work or with friends, you can feel like you are faking it or you are an imposter. “If only they knew…” However, it’s not faking it to not disclose to everyone…not everyone needs to know or deserves to know or even can handle knowing personal stuff. And…remember, you are more than those horrible experiences, so much more. And all those other aspects of you deserve to be grown, expressed, enjoyed, and honored. So you aren’t an imposter because you have private memories, secreted away for only those truly trustworthy to know. YOU are the WHOLE of you. Perhaps this article will help too: “Affirmations to combat imposter syndrome and tips for navigating it”


I’m not sure these 20 signs only reflect family trauma, but it is a list that may help you identify traits that you could modify if you thought such were needing change because they belonged to trauma patterns that you now can unlearn or retrain to your wonderful benefit. Considered this article: “20 Common Personality Traits of Family Trauma Survivors” | Psychology Today


Having the emotional freedom and self-respect to admit mistakes or bad decisions is not the same as hating yourself for mistakes and bad decisions. Let your clarity and honesty be kind and instructive not cruel and unforgiving. Consider this article. “Silencing Our Inner Critic After Attachment Trauma’ | Psychology Today


We have dreams to process the past, escape, symbolize our concerns, and maybe visit with loved ones passed. Also if you dream of your abuser, take notes and see how it might help you move on, away from your abuse, or how it reflects how stuck you feel in that past. Therapists can help with those Dreams that haunt too, so don’t hesitate to get help. Check this out: “Dreams of Departed Loved Ones” | Psychology Today