I don’t always agree with lists provided about what abusers or manipulators say because we all use such phrases sometimes, normally. However, when an abuser or manipulator uses phrases that freeze us, discourage us, control us, or confine us, we need to pay attention. Those phrases are what triggers our “vulnerably victimizable mindsets.” Know your triggers! And consider this article: “10 phrases narcissists use to maintain the upper hand in relationships – Hack Spirit” Posted on September 26, 2023September 26, 2023 by drcarolfrancis https://hackspirit.com/phrases-narcissists-use-to-maintain-the-upper-hand-in-relationships/
Develop your own sound and solid comebacks to manipulative statements. Here are some examples from this linked article. What are you savvy responses. “8 clever phrases to put a manipulator back in their place – The Expert Editor” Posted on September 24, 2023 by drcarolfrancis https://experteditor.com.au/blog/clever-phrases-to-put-a-manipulator-back-in-their-place/
Happy People are…? If you had to list 10 ways happy people see the world what would be your insights? Compare to this article. Are you surprised at the differences? Do you embrace being happy or do you embrace being skeptical about happiness due to your traumas? “10 ways happy people see the world differently” – Hack Spirit Posted on April 7, 2023 by drcarolfrancis https://hackspirit.com/ways-happy-people-see-the-world-differently/
While people around you have NOT displayed integrity nor any allegiance to caring about the impact of their foul behaviors, you have a choice to manage your own character qualities. Do you consider integrity to be valuable to you or to other worthy people? What does integrity even look like when it interfaces with the treachery of cruelty and deception? Is safety valued larger than integrity? Considered this article as you contemplate. “People with integrity often display these 10 character traits” – Hack Spirit Posted on April 6, 2023 by drcarolfrancis https://hackspirit.com/people-with-integrity/
“Who am I?” You have many dimensions to who you are and thus many expressions of your personality. So as you recover, know that only a part of you will periodically erupt that reacts to your trauma and the triggers in your present. You are more, much more than your traumas. Don’t forget ALL of who you are as your evolve and heal. Check this article out “Personality Can Change from One Hour to the Next”- Scientific American Posted on April 5, 2023April 5, 2023 by drcarolfrancis https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/personality-can-change-from-one-hour-to-the-next/