These three signs are truly good advice during the first year for sure. But how do you discern human imperfection vs incompatibility?
You want a partner that is as eager to create success in the relationship as you are and also as capable to contribute to that success as you even if offering different skills and styles.
No one is perfect for sure so it is important that you both have a growth mindset toward wonderful improvements but that you also really enjoy the NOW too as that’s the reality of what you two can create NOW.
Thinking they will change and you will be the vehicle of that change makes the relationship about therapy instead of about creating a good NOW together. This is Not workable except in spurts.
Ah relationships are complex, so bottom line, you want a connection that is functioning, workable, enriching, and equal. Oh and, mutual respect and trustworthiness are essential ingredients for any future together.
More later.
DR Carol Francis
310-543-1824.