Obstacles are challenges to overcome ~ this one approach to recovery is a truism of optimism that helps parents and their children be empowered instead of defeated when abuse or trauma or less than optimal moments occur. It’s sounds too unrealistic when we are in the middle of defeat or exhaustion. Yet, as soon as you find a path to begin defeating the obstacle and your energies to do so are a little stronger, begin to wisely act. That beginning wise act will begin a cascade of turning your obstacle into just something to climb over or around. Check this article out “Parenting expert Michele Borba: Optimism helps kids succeed”