Hmmm. This article is opposite in some ways to what I have explained in my book “Paths to Recovery After Abuse and Trauma” (see on Amazon or check this website for discussion on forgiveness pitfalls). I have found that the emphasis on forgiveness of an abuser has kept people tied into their abuser or kept people feeling guilty for hating their abuser. Since Hate of something or someone awful can be a quality of SELF-RESPECT and SELF-CARE and SELF-LOVE and since Hate can also help establish boundaries and stop the urge to return for more abuse (happens often), then hate can be helpful and in contrast “forgiveness” can breed dependence and be used by any con or sociopath to retrap. So, don’t hate your hate. It might help you be safe and evolve. And when you are emotionally and physically safe, healed and moving on, letting go of hate (as a tool of safety) may be possible for you if hate feels like a burden. Here’s the article to contemplate though “How to Forgive in Six Steps” | Psychology Today

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