None of us have the right personality mix of healthy and solid traits. So don’t aim for perfection in yourself nor loves or friends. Nonetheless it’s important to be able to recognize traits that (if dominate or inflated or frequently evidenced) may need you to pause especially as you are trying to ensure that you don’t have any abusers in your life. Let me know what you discover. Cheers, Dr. Carol drcarolfrancis@gmail.com