Too often “BPDs” are actually traumatized personalities who need to heal and sort out moments when they feel like victims when they are actually not victims of abuse vs when they are actually victims of abuse. It’s tricky to distinguish really for some. When BPDs defensively attacks others however, the BPD looks like the abuser. Again, complicated to sort through for some. Read through this article and see what you discover or disagree with. Let me know. firstname.lastname@example.org.