Abusive individuals wear many hats and many causes for their cruelty. Perhaps you are still puzzled as to how individuals can be awful. You might still harbor sympathy or empathy for their tendency to be cruel. To keep you safe, however, you need to be smart and not fall prey to yet another abusive person because you still believe in the fundamental goodness of all people. I’d suggest that you trust those only who prove to be trustworthy. That’s another discussion. For now though, read this very clear discussion about psychopaths and sadists because … Your abusers is likely to have these qualities that will be quite novel for most to recognize. What do you think? firstname.lastname@example.org Dr Carol Francis.